'Inner stability and language use'
|v A basis for safety and security|
|v Story: 'Being estranged from oneself: excluding the other'|
|v One axis of making contact and one of inner stability|
The name of the rose
Table: language and signal
|v The person behind the words|
The signal of extreme language use
Table: excluding tendencies and language use
|v Story: 'Excluded: becoming alienated from oneself'|
|v Final comment|
A basis for safety and security
Six times now I have revived memories in the story line. My experience is the most
valuable of my posessions and analysing them has helped me greatly, as could be expected.
I find myself now in a different relation to my parents than ten or twenty years ago. I
find myself also in a different relation particularly to myself. I am no longer
emotionally dependent on my parents, they are no longer predominantly normative to me. I
have more distance, look at them from a more realistic perspective, respect and understand
their actions. I have the feeling of standing in the world on my own feet and I think that
I have found my basis.
At the outset the subject of this zine should have been the foundation itself, the
ground upon which a person stands, the subjective certainty and stability which an
individual needs in his handling of flux in his environment. The strength of the basis of
an event or process shows the result of inner activity, reveals to what extent one has
been able to face and digest one's negative experiences and capacities, has learned to
transpose them into emotional stability. That subjective strength I think is constitutive
for the consistency of the process. Subsequently the question could be how a person
constructs such a basis.
Being estranged from oneself: excluding the other
'Conditions of Conduct
This text [ source ]
was written in the spring of 1914 by Albert Einstein, when they had just taken up
residence in Berlin, in order to clarify the relationship with his wife, Mileva Maric. She
leaves Germany with her two sons on July 29.
What kind of a man was Einstein really? How was he as a man with women, which
obligations balanced his claimed right to act the way he did? He clearly puts himself
central, but from which (obliging) relation with his environment, with the world, can that
One axis of making contact and one of inner stability
|An analysis of some parts of his birth chart can perhaps introduce some subtlety on the certainties, the emotional stability, the basis which the person Albert Einstein has at his disposal. In ZZZine 2 I have discussed the Cancer pattern and taken him as an example of someone who applies that pattern in his own manner.|
Now I want to take a look at the working of two axes in a process: the |1|-|7| axis of making contact with the environment in which vitality and initiative stands opposite attraction and temptation, and the |4|-|10| axis of inner stability in which bonding and security stands opposite its antipole selfacceptance and independence. These two axes are standing square to each other. The axis of making contact is directed towards the outer world and the axis of inner stability towards the inner world; the former axis stands for two masculine phases, the latter for two feminine phases. Axes are relations of a pure structural character, they are given in the structure.
I shall describe below four important functions within a process. As appears from the description every function, as it by itself is a process in which all other functions play a specific role, has in its own way the two axes mentioned at its disposal. The images on the page behind the picture can elucidate this principle.
These two axes are important sources of information not only because they mark some instruments of which the specific (learning) process or the function avails itself but especially because of the information about the character and the measure of vulnerability or, perhaps, security of the basis upon which that function can build.
Seen from the questions asked, the most important instruments which Einstein has at his disposal individually are:
It is remarkable that the processes of initiating and those of transferral
(nr 1 en nr 2 above) show some similarity in their method. In number two they even
coincide. The making or evoking forms of activity are combined in two ways with the making
or evoking colourings: the phases 1, 7, 10 en 4 are combined with the signs 10, 4, 7 and
1, respectively 1, 7,10 and 4.
Is it possible to find information in these data about his own security or insecurity,
his agressiveness or tenderness with women, the way in which he handles his feminine sides
and emotionality, dependence and feelings of guilt?
To sum up:
As animal among animals we are well capable to move around things and living beings and
to look at them, sniff them, touch them, deal with them. Language, names, pictures and
sounds deal with things, make them assignable and amenable in a rational sense. But just
as the map is not the land, the name is not the thing. Language is an instrument of human
The forms which the relating instrument, language, can take on and the roles it can play are many. I'll start with a little survey to avoid confusion about this.
Naturally I am concerned with language and languages which are being used to transfer
information between people. They are used by humans to exchange information in the outer
world, to manipulate the outer world, to express the own authentic inner outwardly or
rather to mask it. The important matter of fact questions regarding the level at which the
transferral takes place are: whether the language limits itself to the physical and
intellectual outer world, whether the language can and wishes to transfer information
about the inner world of the speaker or author in a satisfactory manner, whether the
language shows respect for the inner values and dignity of the person with whom one is
The person behind the words
Leading from the text of 'Conditions of Conduct' I want to remark on a few things on the basis of its language. How does Einstein use it here and what does the statement tell us about himself?
Expressing oneself in writing can be used as an attempt to emphasize
one's own standpoint. That seems to be the case here. By not mentioning her name, by not
offering an alternative in his own behaviour, by not giving reasons for the enlargement of
his own rights and freedom, by the design and his phrasing he expresses indirectly -
between the lines - his negative feelings, he creates an extreme distance, he emphatically
underlines his own superiority, he affirms the end of the relationship. Behaving towards
his wife as a master who gives orders to a subordinate person is offensive.
The signal of extreme language use
The characterising words, the tone of the words which we can attach in language to an
event, find themselves on a scale between the extremes of utterly positive and utterly
negative. As far as there are words for it, there are gradations available. The affection
for another person can be expressed in terms which are found on a scale between love and
hatred. The possible choices between soft and hard, businesslike and unbusinesslike,
falsehood and truth, sober and sensational are innumerable in theory.
The language of the relation with the outer world is, in our present
culture, predominantly commercial, factual and limited. By limited I mean that it is not
unimaginable that - for instance through pressure from the environment and from habit -
the language adapts itself, just like the person behind it, to the environment. By limited
I mean also that adaptation, of necessity, must lead to one-sidedness, to a language of
the outer world. When that happens then the language of the outer world can shut out the
other, the personal and inner language, and by that repudiate and even destroy the
subjective, the individul values, the personal motives and inner emotions. The inner
language then loses authenticity, the person's self-development gets inhibited and will
gradually become, not only adjusted, but inwardly insecure and ultimately alienated from
itself. Imre Kertész [ source and
note ] has spend a large part of his life studying totalitarian
dictatorship and its ideologies. In his essays he mentions many examples of extreme
language, yet I would rather attempt to illustrate the problem with my own examples and to
interpret it in my own way.
some examples, often resulting from commercialism, of extreme negation of individuals and powerless people:
|It could well be that by such extremity self-denial or self-hatred expose themselves
to the outer world, but this aspect demands more investigation.
A one-sided language directed at the environment will numb under pressure, for instance when circumstances in the world are violent. In turn such extreme use of language will spread sensation-hunger, compulsive growth, insecurity and violence, and suppress the expression of the personal inner life, both in men and in women. It is therefore a misconception to asume that only men speak the excluding language of violence, greed, compulsive consumption, success hunting, in all sectors one can find women who are fluent with the languages of enslavement. I not only learned it myself, but I am also learning to communicate about my inner life through language.
Excluded: becoming alienated from oneself
Emotions do not always receive the name which fits them. Classification of a symptom
with the label of illness in many cases conceals the attempt of the oppressed and
entangled individual, who is no longer able to express personal emotions and motives in a
suitable manner, to develop oneself.
'Sometimes on a Sunday we went to visit grandpa en grandmother. Mother was not very
I believe that for mother really the question of her existence was at stake at that
time, that the 'illness' was a symptom, a signal and that the increasing houseboundedness
caused by a third child triggered it. My first story 'No Harness,
Please' took place at that time of stress. It was not that mother rejected her child,
she has proven sufficiently that she loved all of us very much. It was not what is
sometimes called a man-wife problem or the rejection of a role either. It was a vague
becoming aware of being separated from the whole and shut out of the world, of having
fallen into silence, entanglement and estrangement from herself. She had no more words.
In my search, after the idea in ZZZine#23 of the cooperation
agreement between the world and the process, the new insight has come up of an important
distinction in the use of the means of communication language. On the one side language
used as an instrument of the environment and on the other side language which is needed by
the inner person to express his emotions, choices, intuitions and his intentions, values,
needs and to fulfil his personal part of the covenant. And this with one and the same
language! A surprising and actually quite obvious discovery.